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insert appropriate Monty Python song title here

09 Feb

Except i never could whistle properly…..

We were blindly driving through various neighbourhoods yesterday, getting the feel of different places where we could end up, when my cell phone rang with the news that the place had sold. From the sounds of it, the new owners want us to stay, but until we talk to them, it still feels like we’re in Limbo. And we ain’t dancing….

I chanced looking online at the listing and was blown away and disheartened. I won’t say how much the “lot” sold for, because it was sold as a “lot”, not 2 houses on adjoining properties, mostly because i respect our landlord’s right to privacy, (and lest anyone think i am angry at him, he’s the BEST landlord anyone could ever have, and a fabulous guy with a truly good soul as well, and we will truly miss him) but also because in a million years we couldn’t have afforded to even make an offer.

Mr Deep Pockets has indeed VERY deep pockets, the kind where you  know that our little houses are just fuel for the fire in his belly to rip down. With the size of the Lot, no doubt there will be at least 4 monsters put up, “maximizing his investment and return”. They will have a piddly amount of front lawn to be “respectable”, a back deck above the ground so it doesn’t actually have to touch eeeuww “the dirt” and a few feet of paved path with a couple of sprigs of green along the edges as you go to the also massive garage where the Beemer is parked to protect it from the mad squirrels with baseball bats and any other dirt invading the neighbourhood.

Am i angry? I remember my son asking me once when he was about 7 “why don’t they pull down all the ugly new houses and put up nice old ones, Mom?” Ah, if it were only possible. So, yes, i am angry. It’s not just a place that will disappear, but a value, a principle, a conviction.

You know, on a side note, it’s interesting that when you post your misery, you get a lot more reads showing in your stats. That’s sad. Guess mine will go down again when i stop talking about this and post just art, but people do love to slow down at the accident scene and gawk. Move along. Some of you no doubt are shaking your heads thinking “get over it, it’s just a rental, you’re not on the street, there are other fish houses in the sea, grow up.” Move along.

To all of you who have commented, that i know read me regardless of rant or joy, i thank you from the bottom of my currently wizened little heart. Your thoughtful comments and personal emails have made me cry, smile and appreciate the fact that i can share the misery. I wish i could answer each one personally, but i don’t have the heart strength right now to do so. Some of you have had it worse, a lot worse, than me, and again i thank you for sharing your story.

Now it’s up to me to get through the other “stages of grief”.

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10 Comments

Posted by on February 9, 2013 in not so ordinaries

 

10 Responses to insert appropriate Monty Python song title here

  1. Kit Lang

    February 9, 2013 at 9:25 am

    Keep driving… maybe you WILL find that rental you’ll fall in love with.

    Sending you lots of warmth to soothe your hearts… <3

     
  2. marginmirror

    February 9, 2013 at 9:46 am

    I’m with Kit…and wondering if you can find anything over in the old SW…or maybe in a smaller centre where they haven’t felt it necessary to tear down and build multi-family…like High River or Millarville… or are they too far out of the city?

     
  3. deb

    February 9, 2013 at 11:34 am

    I am wondering if the new landlord could possibly not be the boogeyman and may somehow come to recognize the real value of your home..as it is…could the stars possibly align?

     
    • arlee

      February 9, 2013 at 10:55 pm

      Unfortunately he would have to triple our rent and that of next door too just to pay the mortgage, never mind the taxes!

       
  4. Jennifer Cooper

    February 9, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    You really are a talented writer …. topics can be despair, anger, joy, creativity, angst, wonder … you can share them all. It’s true, the best writers write from the heart …

    If this new landlord is willing to allow you to stay … you may want to ask if you can have a specific time period lease arrangement. To protect yourself from living in limbo, at his mercy. Or, is this individual trying to buy up many of the older homes in your neighbourhood … then build townhomes or a gated community, as soon as they have enough property to get that permit? Most folks with that kind of money have acquired it because they have very sharp elbows … fighting others to the top.

    I sure hope you get some more time to enjoy and prosper in this much loved locale … but I wonder if you might also want to be keeping your eyes open for something longer term.

    Our little home may not be what many would want or even like … but it’s ours’ and no one can take it away.

    Chimo,
    Jennifer

     
  5. kaiteM.

    February 9, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Maybe it’s time to think if you could possibly buy anywhere and use your remaining time left at the old place to save, scrounge, hunt and possibly think outside the usual boundaries of place. We moved from the beautiful seaside suburbs of Sydney to a regional area and now we wouldn’t think of moving back to the rat race again.

     
  6. Leia Scotton

    February 9, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    Dear Arlee,

    I have only just begun reading your blog, though I spent a few days chatching up on the goings on since last fall; I found you because of your inclusion in the latest Art Quilt Studio magazine. I don’t buy Stampington’s publications often, but I simply had to have this one.

    In all of your pain now, please still allow yourselves to dream. I am not very old, but I have learned that dreams, even seeminly impossible ones, are worth their weight in gold. More than that, actually, since they don’t really weigh anything :) .

    I understand your loss. My mom and I had resigned ourselves to loosing our family’s farm in Maine until my grandfather inexplicably changed his mind one day and wrote a will after all. So many of the old farms and family plots in the area have been bought up and turned into muli-million dollar ocean front summer mansions, almost certianly because my grandfather was the only one who refused to sell out to the oil companies in the ’70s. . . The loss was so close, so real, that we could hardly stand to go down there, except the cows needed to be fed.

    We must have dreams in order for them to come true.

    My husband and I just bought our first house this past summer after fighting with banks for 10 months. We found the house we wanted: nice old farmhouse with a barn and an acre in the back; but it was a short sale and it needed some work on the inside. The first bank turned us down because they wouldn’t finance the work on the house. After that, we got permission from the owners to go in and do some cleaning and spackling and painting. Everyone told us we shouldn’t be putting money into a place we didn’t even own yet and had no guarrantee of owning, but we were so tired of sitting on our hands and waiting. Our parents knew us well enough not to try to talk us out of it, but we made our realtor quite nervous and we got a little bit of an earful from our second mortgage broker. In the end, though, everyone told us we probably wouldn’t have gotten the place it we hadn’t done all that work. The risk paid off. And we had each other: when one would loose faith, the other would be there to build it back up.

    Dream, and be stubourn. Don’t give up hope, lean on each other, and hug your pets :) .

    You are in my thoughts,
    Leia

     
  7. karen

    February 9, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    I can not believe how fast it sold! I have never been in your position so I can’t say I know what it feels like but you have stated it so well in your words that I can ‘feel’ it. Sucks big time. I have seen many of the older homes in my neighborhood torn down and replaced with ugly badly built McMansions. Our tiny little brick ranch stays as it has always been and we like it that way. Albeit with new windows and air cond. A big beautiful tree out back that my husband planted when he was a child. I can only imagine how awful it would feel to lose it.

     
  8. MA

    February 10, 2013 at 4:28 pm

    I look at those big monster houses and wonder what they will be like a generation down the road. Will people have realized how expensive they are to maintain…will they become the slums of the future? Will they end up becoming apartments because nobody can afford them anymore? In the meantime the greedy ones of this world are busily buying up and tearing down that little gems that, I suspect, will be what people will wish they had in the not-too-distant future. Unfortunately, human nature being what it is, greed will always win.

     
    • arlee

      February 11, 2013 at 2:13 pm

      The one next to us has already had repairmen i don’t know how many times for everything from their drainage to the roof, the back deck and the venting! And it’s only been 2 winters!

       
 
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