it bears repeating, or deja vu all over again

13 May

Your Name: Kate
Subject: Textiles

Message: Hello there! I have stumbled across your textile art that you do! I am very inspired by it, as I am an art student and taking textiles in my foundation year. I am looking for an tips or pointers in a direction of an area in textiles as it is something i am very interested in and enjoy doing very much! If you could help me at all it would be greatly appreciated!

Sincerely Kate

I would imagine that some of you out there in Blogland get these requests as well. Some earnest textile student emails you privately and enthuses rhapsodic about your work, then asks if she/he can use you as an example in a project for her/his sixth form/foundation year project, or whatever it is. (To date, they have all been UK students.) They proceed to ask lots of questions and require detailed answers. You never hear back from them after complying and being generous with your time and ideas. NEVER.

Yes, it’s flattering and i usually don’t mind answering and sharing, but you know what? I’m not going to do your homework for you. If you know how to use the net, use some netiquette. Comment on the things you like, share some of your work/experiences/thoughts. You’ll learn more that way. Do you hit on certain areas that interest you here? Or are you just looking at one thing and thinking “Oh she’ll do”?

I’ve never been sent back a thank you saying i “made” her/his project, the other students were impressed, the teacher blown away by my talent, she/he won a scholarship. That’s not what i’m looking for. Common courtesy dictates a response of some sort after the fact of presentation if you’re using my work and thoughts. Is that too much to ask?

Now, i am not picking on this Kate. All of the requests from the 7 “students” have been polite, clear and forthright. BUT,when they swear up and down that i will see the finished project, i expect some follow-up. ZIP ZILCH ZERO is what has happened. I even found one on Facebook and she still didn’t respond. I myself have emailed people, after going through their “online presence”, and asked questions, especially now with the ARTeries column on MrXStitch. Even when they say no, politely or not, i follow up with a little note thanking them, and if i have used their input, i direct them to the appropriate link. COMMON COURTESY.

I don’t hold back “trade secrets” here. I’ve constantly shared examples, methods and projects. It’s not like i’m holding out on these requests. What would be the point of my online presence then? If you’re not truly interested, then go buy “Textile Art for Dummies”—-i’m sure Amazon has something that would help.

Miss/Mr Textile Student, i would love to help you. I suggest that you peruse the site, using the search button, read, explore, make yourself visible and go from there.

I hope you understand. Thank you for your kind words.

And don’t tell me the dog ate your homework.

(I wrote this way back in Nov of ’09, and have had 3 4 5 6 7  11 requests since—-)


Posted by on May 13, 2010 in not so ordinaries


10 responses to “it bears repeating, or deja vu all over again

  1. Mary Anne

    May 13, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    Funny – these seem to be a ‘form letter’ that goes the rounds every once in awhile. Seems to be a form of spam.


    • albedoarlee

      May 13, 2010 at 5:26 pm

      No, they’re not spam–they are real people–i’ve googled and found several of them, and they are “students”, but they still never reply.


  2. lisette

    May 15, 2010 at 6:35 am

    thought it looked familiar 🙂


  3. Faith

    May 19, 2010 at 6:28 pm

    I have received similar requests on my book review blog! I just told the student to do his own homework. I can see why it would be a bit different with needlework art. Maybe you should request the name of school/class/teacher before you answer anything.


    • albedoarlee

      May 19, 2010 at 7:37 pm

      Doesn’t matter *what* i ask–they never reply after. Although there currently is a young lady who seemed fine with me telling her to do her own homework, and said she would show it to me—we’ll see!!!


      • albedoarlee

        June 14, 2010 at 7:29 pm

        And of course as usual: never heard back, but at least *i* didn’t do the work for her!


  4. Helen Walland

    September 24, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    I am ashamed of our students!!!!! Sorry they are so rude – probably teenagers, who always seem to have something else to do rather than consider other people! I have just stumbled over your blog while researching Kantha for a Textiles and Quilting course I’m doing. I found your piece very helpful and enjoyed your style. I hope it will be OK to quote you – giving you credit for it of course. I have always admired the Indian fabrics but didn’t know there was a ‘proper’ name for it. In the past I have bought second hand pieces in the market in Birmingham UK very cheaply.


    • arlee

      September 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm

      Thanks Helen, i am happy to share, with that proviso of credit 🙂


  5. shiborigirl

    January 1, 2011 at 1:10 pm

    get this all the time- my reply is fairly similar. i ask them to take some time read around my blog first and i send them my own list of 10 “about me” questions that they can use to help research my work. i then tell them that after this to feel free to respond with any specific questions they have about what i do or my ideas, inspirations etc.
    i have yet to hear back from one of them. (ok…maybe one…)

    my thinking was that the reason they are all from the UK is that at least they are still teaching art in HS there!!
    (it seemed to be HS level student projects)


  6. jafabrit

    May 26, 2011 at 7:18 am

    I understand how you feel, having been through similar situations. Still I can’t seem to help myself and want to help, but I like shiborigirls method of dealing with it.


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